Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Street Meat: Friend or Foe?


If you've ever been to New York, you know what "Street Meat" is - whether you realize it, or not. Street Meat is the concession sold out of vendor carts on virtually every corner in New York City. The term "Street Meat" is a vague term on purpose, as I'm not sure if anyone - including the people cooking it - knows what kind of meat it actually is. Most often, I'd guess its chicken - but then again, doesn't everything taste like chicken? In any case, these vendors are impossible to miss - and just in case you do - they're impossible not to smell.

The phenomenon with Street Meat, as far as I'm concerned, is the smell. All Street Meat, no matter where or what it is, has an intoxicating scent that tickles the senses of any red-blooded carnivore. It smells addictive in the way that baking brownies do...mouth-watering, crazy addiction...like you never want to stop tasting it.

And herein lies my problem: I think Street Meat is visually repugnant. Repulsive, in fact. A lot of it comes on a sick (meat on a stick seems so wrong to me on so many levels), and its cooked right there - on the street - so often times, there's raw meat next to the cooked, in the sun, etc. I don't know. I can't really look at it without a gag. But then -- it smells so damn good. What's a girl to do?

I tried to take advice on the matter, and ask around. Turns out my sources are dodgy, at best. Gertie loves Street Meat, but she also licks her butt. Chris swears by it, but this is a guy who thinks Pop Tarts are a culinary masterpiece. I have a sneaking suspicion that Robin came to visit purely for the sweet nectar of Street Meat, but I've seen her eat the green stuff that comes out of a lobster. These are not credible taste buds.

To make matters worse, I am confronted by this conundrum on a daily basis, as there is a Street Meat cart right next to my fruit guy. This vendor cooks up the usual Street Meat go-tos: Falafel, Kabobs, Gyros, etc. The smell eminating from his cart is enough to make me abondon fruit forever. Not to mention the fact that every day at lunch, he's got a line around the block that rivals the line at Chipotle. And if you're reading this from California, and you just gagged at the idea of a line at Chiptole - let me tell you that that's another phenominon about New York: New Yorkers think Chipotle is the shit. And, well, its not as if I've got my nose in the air whilst saying that - its a guilty pleasure of mine, too. I hang my head.

But anyway, to have a line like that, means that the Financial District thinks this guy - and his Street Meat - is the shit, too.

And although I pride myself on being a pretty adventurous eater (I was once duped into sampling sea urchin and cow tounge - all in one sitting), I can't shake my trip to the Statue of Libery when I was 13, when I bit into my hotdog - and then into what seemed like a HUMAN BONE (I've had, like, 3 hotdogs since). Also, in my older age, I'm not keen on taking the 50/50 chance on food poisoning that Street Meat seems to offer. Though, on the other hand, that might be the kick-off that I'm looking for to the old 'summer diet'.

Eh. Still not worth it.

So, dear Readers - if you have a Street Meat success story, and wish to be on the 'pro' side of my list of pros and cons, do share. And if you have a con, you'd better tell me - because its only a matter of time before my will fails and I Street Meat the Hell out of my lunch someday - and then immediately regret my decision.

Monday, June 29, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:


"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."

Oscar Wilde
, Lady Windermere's Fan, 1892, Act III

I Saw Stars!


I’m pretty sure that – up until now – the best part about living in New York has been the experience of leaving it.

Since moving here a little over a year ago, my logged hours of sleep have severely diminished, my activity quadrupled, and a knot of anxiety has permanently set up shop right in the pit of my chest.

Perhaps this is because I don’t own a calendar, Filofax, Blackberry, iphone…or even just a piece of paper with upcoming events scribbled on it. I know of one person (Hi, Gill) who just had a heart palpitation by the very idea of relying purely on memory. Though I can’t seem to rely on anything else to schedule my life but my own head, I think that this anxiety might be stemming from knowing I usually have someplace to be – I just have no idea where.

So, when I have a trip, or an adventure out of Manhattan – not only is it the one thing I can remember, but it also means that for that period of time, I don’t have any place to be but exactly where I am. Brain, off. Anxiety gone.

This past weekend, Chris and I attended a wedding in New Hope, PA, and the phenomenon of what happens to me the minute I settle in on the train heading out, was true to course.

The start of the ‘going out of town’ process is a little Incredible Hulk-ish – throwing clothes, frantically looking under cushions and pillows for a rouge earring that I absolutely must wear, running back from the elevator at least 4 times, having forgotten one, or all of the following:

- Phone
- Charger
- Toothbrush
- Directions
- Head

Inevitably, its then a mad dash to Grand Central, as either the trains aren’t running (damn you, Wall Street stop!), traffic sucks (damn you, Downtown construction!), I’m just late (damn you, Me!) or all of the above. Once there, I insist on stocking up on UsWeekly and coffee for the trip, while Chris stands in the one line for the one teller selling tickets.

Sidenote: why bother with all the ticket windows in Grand Central when it’s a miracle if there are 2 in operation? It like being at the DMV – but so much worse, because we are always seconds away from missing our train, and inevitably behind someone who has no idea where they’re going, or how they’re going to get there. Dare I say that I actually prefer the DMV?

Once on the train – and winded from the 100 yard dash down the platform - I begin to recognize myself again. I’m sweating from the running, I’m knocking into people with my ridiculously large suitcase, I’m spilling coffee, and probably barking at Chris, but I’m slowly starting to turn a little less green.

The knot begins to untie.

Its easy to forget how awesome it is to be ‘out’. I love the sound of sirens, horns and footsteps on the sidewalk – it’s the life I live. But what about the sound of silence? Crickets? Waves? Breeze?

This weekend, I had my bare feet in dew, I smelled freshly cut grass, I chased a firefly, and – most importantly – I saw stars. Lots and lots and lots of stars. The knot, as usual when I leave, was completely gone.

Oddly enough, standing in a field in the middle of nowhere, looking up at the stars made me feel like so much more of a tiny ant than being in New York does. I felt so small. And I guess, that’s because I am.

I was a good, hard reminder of that – and a reminder that ultimately, life takes you where you’re supposed to go. After all, it took me to Pennsylvania to realize that. And when I really think about it, even without the calendar, or the iphone, or having any clue what it is I’m “supposed to do” tomorrow, I always seem to end up right where I should be.

On the way home yesterday, we came in from New Jersey. We look the same route that I used to take on my way home from college. At that time, I would see the NYC skyline, wave to it, and I’d just keep on driving. I wasn’t supposed to be here then - and so I wasn’t.

Yesterday, as we came up on the huge City skyline, I felt like a tiny ant again - in comparison to it, and the life I live in it. But miraculously, there was no knot forming in my chest, no anxiety at all - I just couldn’t wait to get home. And in the end, that’s really the only place that we’re all supposed to be, right?

Friday, June 26, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:



"Um... a malt Glen Garry for me and my friend here. And if you tell that bartender to go extra easy on the water, this 50 cent piece has your name on it."

- Trent
Swingers,
1996

Thursday, June 25, 2009

A Big Apple a Day: Kindface


At this point, everyone pretty much knows what “gayface” is. If you don’t, please see me, and I will send you some pictorial examples. Or, just look right.

But have you ever noticed “kindface”?

Kindface is a word used to describe someone with a naturally kind face. They might be evil inside (though, I can't imagine it so), but when you see them on the street you can’t help but think “Wow, that Dude looks like a really nice guy.”

In a city stuffed with Grumpy McBittersons, I have really grown to appreciate kindface. I mean – I admit! - I have meanface. And I'm pretty damn good at using it. I scowl around, hiding behind my sunglasses, doing my best Lilith impression...I do! People think I smile 24 hours a day (people, excluding Chris) and I’m not usually one to burst bubbles, but I am indeed a bitter butter. My smile may be a social butterfly, but it also loves to hibernate. I think it has peeked out 5 times in the last 26 days - and that is no exaggeration. This weather may end up doing permanent damage.

But that’s proving my point! Kindface is SO important in general, but even more so during a bleak month such as June ’09.

Chris and I jinxed each other yesterday, as we both noticed a kindface on a park bench. He had a full beard, blue, round eyes, tousled hair and was just hanging on a bench, carrying on conversation with a lady friend. That’s all. That’s all he was doing. He wasn’t helping a little old lady across the street. He wasn’t curing cancer. He wasn’t even smiling – he was talking. And yet, Chris and I both noticed him, and were both compelled – almost simultaneously – to say "That guy looked like a really nice guy".

And then we spent the next 15 minutes, musing about how refreshing it is to find kindface. Its almost like finding a 4 leaf clover. Its really hard to do - and there are fake-outs everywhere (3 leaves). But if you manage to stumble across a real one, you are really, really lucky.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Do Yourself a Favor: Stupidly Smart Advice from my Favorite Yang


Sometimes, I feel like my life is a movie. In many ways, it is. Sometimes, its a drama (PMS), sometimes it’s a comedy (me, in general), sometimes its a romance (when I’m dreaming), sometimes its an action flick (dodging falling cranes, biting dogs and unlicensed cabbies), and sometimes, its like the movie “The Hangover” – and this is especially evident when I have the pleasure of spending and evening, day, or even five minutes with Chris and his best friend, John.

These two are the yin and yang of stupidity. They could not be any less alike, yet, any more the same. Their relationship is built on the stuff that makes friendship mysterious, ridiculous, and necessary. I appreciate Chris and I appreciate John, and even though it pains me to say it, I appreciate Chris and John together – because as absurd as they are, they’re like hetero-sexual life partners (we think) – and that’s pretty priceless.

That said, they both behave like the brothers I never wanted, and being the 3rd wheel with them is like putting my head between two banging cymbals.

Chris and John have an odd way of balancing each other out. In many ways (most) Chris finds himself on the receiving end of advice and guidance from John – as utterly frightening as that may be. In others ways, its Chris who does the schooling – which is even scarier.

My personal favorite is the “Do Yourself a Favor” advice from John. This advice usually comes at two times:

1) on the tail end of Chris doing something stupid (“Do yourself a favor, and never, EVER pay that much for a VW Cabrio again”)
2) as a preemptive strike against something stupid that Chris is about to do (“Do yourself a favor, and eat before we go out tonight”)

I have a serious love for the “Do Yourself a Favors” – because they usually exempt me from having to say it. I think it, John says it, and Chris listens – because it comes from John. Brilliant.

The more I thought about the genius of John’s “Do Yourself a Favors”, I began to think that we can all use them sometimes. Even me.

So I asked John if he would grace us from time to time with his infinite supply of pearls of wisdom – because after all, everyone is a little “Chris” sometimes…

So, my friends:

“Do yourself a favor…and don't post that you are hungover on Facebook...no one gives a shit!!!!!!!"

Fact.

GERTIE SAYS:


Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.

- Dr. Seuss

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Life in the Zone


Over the course of the 4 years that I lived in LA, I’d literally forgotten what it is like to be cat-called.

I have:

1) Real boobs.
B) Real hair (brown).
C) Real wrinkles.
4) Real vocabulary (with an over-abundance of the word “Dude”)

Therefore, I was invisible in LA – something that I grew to love about myself there.

Even so, even if I had the boobs, the hair, the Botox – I still probably wouldn’t have ever been cat-called.

WAIT. Correction. I wouldn’t have been cat-called by the general population (excluding one particular culture, where I began to think that it must be considered rude if a man doesn’t stare, wink and hump the air every time a girl – not necessarily a pretty one – walked by)

Excluding them, its just not done. Surprising in a land of nothing but beautiful people, sure. I would theorize that people are too busy admiring themselves to notice others, but that would be a generalization that in the end, I can’t get on board with. I knew too many people who didn’t care for that to be true.

So, given the fact that cat-calling is not a pro sport in LA, I’d managed to extinguish it from my life all together, and I kinda forgot it existed.

And then…I moved here.

Picture this: Chris and I live at the very beating heart of the world’s biggest and most famous construction site: Ground Zero. Not only that, BUT – they are re-constructing the road in front of our building, constructing the residences next to us, the hotel kiddy corner from us, and actually de-constructing the building directly East of us.

I think its safe to say that we’re in the thick of it.

Now, given what I just explained – can you even imagine the amount of construction workers I walk by on a daily basis? Its in the hundreds. I walk by – sometimes through – hundreds of construction workers every day.

When we moved here, I stepped out of that U-Haul and into the dreams of about 50 men who work around my building. How do I know this? – that’s what about 50 of them said to me ON DAY ONE.

I have been cat-called in front of my husband (yes), friends (2 are better than 1), dog (from a distance)…I have been cat-called in front of my DAD, for the love of God (that was awkward).

Needless to say, I didn’t dip a toe back into it, I did a cannon ball into the very core of the cat-calling culture.

And the thing that is so alarming about it is that it can happen when I’m all sexy’ed up for a night out (appreciated), or it can be the morning after, when I’m wearing sweats, glasses, dirty hair and morning breath (not appreciated).

For those of you who are lucky enough to have seen me in the AM, its not a whistling, “Hey, Baby” type situation.

You’ve got to give them credit, however – they are totally unbiased, color-blind, open-minded and honestly don’t care if you’re a troll that lives under a bridge – as long as you’ve got any semblance of a rack, you’re gettin’ some love.

This is why that despite my seemingly negative views of this practice, I can appreciate a good gawk every now and then. Every girl knows that turning a head (no matter whose it is) makes her day. Even if heads also turn for the Troll walking behind her.

So, on day one, I knew that beating them was not an option. Joining them was unrealistic, as I’m afraid of heights and look horrid in a hardhat. The only other option was to live with them – which I do. Every morning, I shoot them a smile. Every afternoon, I give them an “Afternoon, Boys”. And every night on my way home from work, I tell them I’ll see ‘em in the morning.

They still give me “rounds of applause” – but at this point, I kinda like it.

The fact is, these guys have Mothers. They have girlfriends and wives…some have kids. They have bills to pay, beers to drink and maybe a few of them are saving up for an engagement ring. Granted, this doesn’t stop them from harassing women, but it stops me from being bitter. Most of these boys are harmless sweethearts who spend 14 hours a day immersed in testosterone. My eyes would bug out at the sight of a skirt, too, if that were my fate. So I smile, and take the compliment – because really (even in front of my Dad) that’s what it is.

OK, I had a point……OH. Jay. Jay holds the stop sign at the crosswalk of the West Side Highway. I walk over the highway with Gertie several times a day, so Jay knows me, he knows Gertie, he knows Chris…I know he went to a birthday party last weekend – we’re pals.

The other guys, I don’t know by name, but by face, and they know how I look walking away – so – we’re pals, too.

Today, Gertie decided to drop trou in the middle of the crosswalk. I kid you not when I say that one has approximately 45 seconds to get across the street before every cabbie in New York is skidding tires on that green light. And there’s G – hunched over, looking guilty, dropping bombs, as I try to drag her to a safe zone.

In doing so, I ensured that she had scattered her offerings all over the highway. Meanwhile, the walk signal hand was blinking, I was struggling with the poo bags, Gertie was making a break for it, and the cars were revving their engines at the start. Panic!

Out of nowhere, Jay was next to me, offering to take Gertie while I clean up. As if from the woodwork, workers from all over the site gathered to hold traffic while I frantically ran around playing pick up sticks. The lights turned green, and cars did not move. My boys were there for me – silently. No whistles (though, I’m pretty sure my skirt blew up), no rounds of applause (though it was quite a show). Just some good old fashioned lookin’ out. Gertie and I were safe, sound (well, she was) – and encased – by construction workers.

When the last poo had been picked up off the street, they dispersed and traffic proceeded as usual. I spent the rest of my day thinking about how awesome that was – and then it dawned on me. My experience on the highway today was a tiny example of my life everyday. This city may be crazy and hectic and dangerous, but here we are - safe, sound – and encased – by construction workers. And there’s no place I’d rather be.

On my way back tonight, I walked through them as I always do, got a whistle and a call as usual – but this time, I reveled in it – because this is home.

Monday, June 22, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:




The best way out is always through.

Robert Frost

Sunday, June 21, 2009

To Daddies: Especially Mine


It is easy to follow footsteps bigger than your own.

-Winnie the Pooh

Saturday, June 20, 2009

The Weigh I See It: A Guest Blog by one, salty Dog.


I have a friend who is hilarious and cynical in the most wonderfully annoying – yet truthful way. Of course, when I told him I started a blog, I was informed that Friend “doesn’t like bloggers” – but he still seems to like me, reads my blog, gives me his 4 cents (because 2 just isn’t enough) and has even come up with a title to his recurring guest blogs. (see witty title). Yet – he doesn’t like people who blog. Interesting contradiction, Friend.

Because he’s the world’s sweetest sour lemon, and my favorite pessimist, Friend has earned himself a blog guest spot as a ghost-writer – because the Devil forbid his name is ever revealed. I’d say “God forbid” – but I really don’t want to bring her into this.

And maybe next time, he'll make deadline, and I won't have to cut and paste an email to post on his behalf. ZING!

Please enjoy his tangy insights – and consider yourself warned.


“I was just in a meeting where a very Sr. person must have used the word “irregardless” 1,000 times and each time I felt like screaming "You uneducated moron, the word is “regardless”. Just “regardless”. Stop adding the prefix that in essence makes up a word. And even if it did exist, its a double negative and states the exact opposite of what you think you are saying".”


Well said, Friend. I concur.

Friday, June 19, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:


"Play for more than you can afford to lose and you will learn the game."

- Winston Churchill

Thursday, June 18, 2009

A sad day for film.


I’m, like, about to cry. Maybe it’s the 15th consecutive day of rain (really, God?), maybe its the fact that its not Friday, and I woke up thinking it was – but I just sent someone to Duane Reade to get a couple of rolls of 35mm film developed and he came back empty handed. Apparently, they no longer accept 35mm film.

CRY!

For those of you who aren’t familiar with Duane Reade, its comparable to CVS, or Rite Aid – with their own little photo section, etc. They’re all over New York. I don’t know what the deal is with Duane Reade, and why they have the market cornered, but I’m going to have to look that one up*. There are ‘Duane’ and ‘Reade’ streets as well. Who are these people?! Anyway, I digress…

Granted, this development (or lack thereof – zing!) may not stir the, um, older generations (Hi Mom!) – because they remember sitting for photographs (sorry Mom!), and have lived through the progression of cameras/photography/blah, blah, blah - but this disturbs me! I remember my first camera (it was pink), and my first roll of film (pictures of people without heads). I remember the pure excitement and anticipation of picking up the developed pictures and ripping through them like a little kid on Christmas. What was inside? What have I managed to capture?! And then, eventually, I remember having to stop for a moment to think, “I wonder if the photo developer saw this one. And if so – did he make copies?!”

There was no instant gratification. No erasing. No amount of endless storage. You had 24 or 36 pictures – sometimes, you were blessed with one or two more – which were always the best ones. And when someone wanted a copy of your pictures, you got doubles. And if two people wanted copies of your pictures, they fought over the double (Hi Ris, Rob!).

Are those days really gone? Are photo shops with the creepy pock-faced clerk who has his room wallpapered in other people’s pictures really going extinct? How can that be?

And maybe I’m a little too sensitive – being married to a photographer and all – but I must say that this marks the end of a HUGE era. I mean, if you think about it, digital pictures are pictures, sure. But if one never makes prints of them, they live in one’s computer, on one’s phone, Facebook, online photo albums…the pictures never actually live.

And they don’t have to. They can stay on the Internet forever - and ever. And ever. And that's a subject for another time...

But film – film, you have to develop. You’ve got to give it a little love. You’ve got to want those pictures bad enough to bring them in to get developed. You’ve got to deal with the creepy clerk. You’ve got to wait (sometimes DAYS!) and then come back to pick them up. In the meantime, someone has to go through a lot of trouble to process your film into negatives, and your negatives into prints. And unless someone does that, your picture never lives.

In this age of inista-everything, I find a strange comfort in the fact that if I so desire, I can dust off my 35mm camera, get the 5 year-old film out of my refrigerator, and take actual pictures. And I know that if I were to do so, I could go pick them up, and shamelessly sit in the driver's seat of my car, ripping into them like some kind of junkie - to get my fix of the good ones. Then, if they were worth sharing, I can send them - with a letter - on paper - that I wrote with a pen - to whomever I wanted to share my double with. I would then mail them - the old fashioned way (that is, if I had an envelope, stamp, or an actual mailbox). And who knows - maybe I'd even make an album to show my kids one day. Or not.

But that's irrelevant. Its irrelevant now, because all signs are pointing to the fact that that's quickly becoming a non-option. At this point, I have no idea where I would go to get these rolls of film developed. I just sent someone to the closest photo shop I know of, and again, they came back empty-handed...the store has gone out of business.

Obviously, there are places that still accept 35mm film, and all hope is not lost. But, you know, someday, it will be. I mean, they stopped making Poloriod cameras - just stopped. And if you have one (like me!) you're out of luck, because they stopped making the film, too. If it happened to the Poloriod, it can happen to my little pink camera and all of its family and friends.

I guess this bums me out so much because I got a digital camera in 2004. I never go anywhere without it and have thousands of archived pictures. I've made maybe one, actual album with crappy prints I ordered from Kodak.com. The reality of it is - most of these pictures will never have the chance to live. Unless I fall into millions of dollars to get good prints made (and that's not you, either, Snapfish) and a warehouse to house my photo album collection, I will never get them printed. Half of them were lost anyway in the Computer Crash of '08 (which nearly led to the Marriage Crash of '08 - oops!). Devastating.

Long story short, I'm kinda sad. Maybe its the rain, maybe its because its not Friday or maybe its because I feel like the cameras of my youth are a dying breed. In any case, I'm going to go home, dig out my 35mm that has sand stuck in its gears, and I'm going to take a picture using the film that has been in there since 2004. I'm going to find a place that will develop it, and I'm going to re-live the film developing experience for what will probably be the last time. And then I'm going to scan it and post it -- so you can see how awesome a little love is.



*Update, courtesy of Mr. New York and his infinite, useless knowledge:

Duane Reade takes its name from the Company's first successful full-service drugstore, which opened in 1960 on Broadway between Duane and Reade Streets in Manhattan. Since then, Duane Reade has grown to become the most recognized drugstore chain in metropolitan New York. Today, the Company operates over 253 stores in commercial and residential neighborhoods throughout New York.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:


Fashions fade - style is eternal.

- Yves Saint Laurent

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Style Watch: Bearing my sole.


Dear Shoe-Makers from Around the Globe,

OK, I get it. Gladiators were hot. Especially when they were vowing revenge in this life or the next, but does that mean that we have mimic their footwear?

And granted, it would totally rock to be Helen of Troy, who had every dude in a loin cloth fighting over her, launching a thousand ships, etc., but does that mean that we must limp through life wearing matching sandals in order to live vicariously through her? The woman just sat around being fed grapes, looking gorgeous, and watching her boyfriend's brother be killed by her husband. She had her feet up, for sure.

This whole being 'an actual Gladiator', or 'Queen lying around watching Gladiators' scenario is hardly realistic. Even more so if you live in New York. In the 21st Century.

So riddle me this: why are these Grecian / Roman / Maximus Decimus Meridius sandals seemingly ALL WE CAN BUY in 2009? And moreover, if you're going to make us look like we're all extras in Gladiator: The Musical would it be so hard to make them comfortable?

And its not just the Gladiator sandals (I'm just picking on them, because they're rapidly climbing upward on my giant list of pet peeves), its all variations and all little, leathery, strappy sandals in general. What is with the piece of cardboard that they're giving us as support? The soles of these things are like walking on tiny cutting boards. And unless I want to look like a Golden Girl in my orthopedic walking shoes, I have no choice but to slowly crush the arches of my feet by pounding them into concrete sidewalks on a daily basis.

On any given summer day, I can walk anywhere from 11,000 to 25,000 steps (I own and wear a pedometer - don't judge me). That's a lot. That's like, miles and miles. Sometimes, I fancy wearing something a little girlier, and I'll bag the old t-shirt and shorts for say, a sundress. And God knows, running shoes should never even be seen next to, let alone paired with a sundress.

So, its sandals, or bust. And yes, I understand that there were whole populations of people who walked across countries with less support, but one must take into consideration that if I was one of them, at 29, I'd be well past my life expectancy.

So call me crazy, but I'd like to be able to walk into my 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's......

.......and traversing the streets of New York in nothing but a piece of cardboard, strapped to my feet with a sliver of leather that I paid WAY too much for (if they're more expensive than $6, its robbery) is going to make me geriatric by, like, next summer.

So shoe makers - do me these two solids:

- Wrap it up with the Gladiators. When they started hitting the knee, the line was crossed into total ridiculousness, as opposed to just teetering on the edge with the anklet look. And no - I don't care what Mary Kate and Ashley wear / wore / whatever - they're not Gladiators, either.

- Please make cute little summer sandals supportive and comfortable. If I have to start shopping at Aerosoles, and splitting the 'buy one, get one free' special with my Mom, I'm going to hit a new low in life - yes, lower than the time I owned (and loved) a pair of purple stirrups.

On my last leg (pun horrible - but intended),

Teemius Maximus

Monday, June 15, 2009

A Big Apple a Day: Day 3


Thursday night, a *man-boy with a *popped collared blue Polo shirt, khakis and a *Yacht Club Executive Haircut, was next to us at a bar with a posse of clones. These fine, young future business leaders of America were taking Jager-bomb shots. If you don’t know what a Jager-bomb is – you’re better off.

In an attempt to not judge a book by its cover (why, I never!) – I did my best to avoid coming to my own conclusions by ignoring these clowns completely. This worked well. It worked well until I look over, and Blue Polo is visibly harassing my friend, Gillian, who appears repulsed by what I can only imagine is Jager/barf breath through a spit shower.

Later, during the night re-cap, she relayed to me that he was saying things along the lines of (and she quotes) “Why aren't you paying attention to me? I need attention.”

JAW. ON. FLOOR.

At this point, I couldn’t help myself. I’m a glutton for batting around drunken preppy boys (a girl does not cocktail waitress in Nantucket and not pick up a couple of fun habits).

So I say: “May I ask what your name is?”

Collar Pop: “Shep. (hiccup) William Shepard Rose, the Third.”

Me: “You’re KIDDING ME! That’s even better than I thought it would be!!”

Collar Pop: “Shep - the Third.”

Me (to myself): “BLOG – the Third.”



*Man-boy, adj.: A male that appears to be a man, until he opens his mouth, and the fact that he is – (and will probably always be) a boy – is revealed.

*Disclaimer: I have been known to pop a collar in my day, and condone the gentle use of this fashion statement.

*The Yacht Club Executive Haircut, noun: The Executive Haircut, but longer, and seemingly wind-blown. See: “Steff” from Pretty In Pink.

GERTIE SAYS:


"Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light."
- Helen Keller

Sunday, June 14, 2009

That's my 'cue.


I've been sitting here for the better part of 20 minutes trying to think of a way to even remotely encompass the awesomeness that was my day on Saturday in Madison Square Park at the 7th annual Big Apple Barbecue. I am at a complete loss.

I have concluded that I'm going to have to invent some adjectives, because the ones that already exist truly fail to describe the greatest thing ever - and that's exactly what the Big Apple BBQ is. The greatest thing ever.

But aside from being the greatest thing ever, the Big Apple Barbecue is essentially a block party, revolving around BBQ. The country's best pit-masters come from far and wide to converge here for two days a year of nothin' but barbecue. Vendors line the perimeter of the park, luring customers with smells of award winning recipes, and inside, there's a beer garden, a bluegrass band, and hundreds of picnicking carnivores.

I ended up there, because finger lickin', meat lovin', model American, Robin O'Malley visited New York from San Francisco this weekend, and happy days were here again. In an effort to revolve our entire weekend around food and drink (obviously), my friends and I had "Saturday Day = Big Apple Barbecue" locked into the schedule the moment that Robin booked her flight. The fortuitousness of these two occasions colliding was truly the perfect storm.

So - long story short, we woke up with a hangover. We knew this would happen. I actually kind of wanted it to happen for two reasons:

1) When I am hungover, I have an insatiable appetite. Insatiable appetite means trying as many BBQ stands as I possibly can, and then still having room for beer and a Mister Softie ice cream cone.
2) When hungover, I'm severely dehydrated, and therefore hardly ever have to pee - which is a genius approach to an outdoor festival.

I went in STARVING and totally dehydrated. Perfectly played.

Let me paint this picture with my barbecue brush: Chris and I got off of the R/W train at 23rd Street, and I was like Pepe LePew - my nose turned up, my eyes shut, and my feet lifted off the ground. The smell of barbecue had wafted down into the station, leaving a visual scent trail that went directly into my nose - just like in the cartoons. I floated up the stairs, across the street and to the entrance. When I finally came to, I was flabbergasted.

Just when I start to think that I, as a carnivore, am an endangered species, I should attend a BBQ Festival. This weekend, Madison Square Park was a vegetarian's worst nightmare - people as far as the eye could see, gnawing on ribs like cave-people. It was glorious!

There were 6 of us, and a Yorkie named Miles - it was like the Wizard of Oz. "Ribs, and sausages, and Mint Juleps, OH MY!"

We virtually skipped through the crowds of the Barbecue Brick Road, following the colored flags to the end of the line of the next vendor. Pulled Pork so tender, it literally dissolved in my mouth. Sausage a foot long, served with pimento cheese and peppers. Ribs, falling off the bone and into the gaps between my every tooth. It was a virtual smorgasbord of deliciousness, and for a good hour, I was in a meat trance so severe that I had quite literally forgotten that I was in New York - but was convinced that we had been beamed to some kind of heaven, where the streets are paved with meat, the rivers run with barbecue sauce and Mint Juleps come out of water fountains. Looking around, I could see that everyone was there with me - in Heaven.

But now, having been there, I know what Hell is: the 363 more days before next year's Big Apple BBQ.

Until then, I'm going to work on my adjectives so that next year, I may be able to articulate properly. For now, I have but one word to describe my Saturday - barbephenomitastic.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:


"You're suspect! Yeah, you! I don't know what your reputation is in this town, but after the shit you tried to pull today you can bet I'll be looking into you. Now the business we have, heretofore, you can speak with my aforementioned attorney. Good day, gentlemen; and until that day comes, keep your ear to the grindstone."

-Chuckie, Good Will Hunting 1997

This one's for you, Aunt Robin :)

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

A Big Apple a Day: Day 2


A man named Elio owns the Italian Restaurant, Ancora, located on the ground level of my office building. He wears a tux to work every day, and can most often be found outside the front doors, welcoming his patrons with a broad smile and a firm handshake.

On days that I take a lunch - on days like today - I see Elio twice. Once on my out of the building and once on my way in. Both times - in fact, every time - Elio greets me with a "Hello, Princess" and a kiss on the top of my hand.

Even on the gloomiest of days, Elio manages to brighten mine. Today was such a day.

Grazie, Elio.

A View From Ground Zero


Chris, Gertie and I live in an apartment that overlooks Ground Zero. And when I say "overlooks Ground Zero", I literally mean that there is nothing between our window and the air above the site. (refer above) We have pipe dreams about charging admission to our apartment, as there is no better view of the site than from our living room. (come one, come all)

I have found our proximity to Ground Zero surprisingly peaceful. There's something undeniably soothing about the constant lull of construction. Its almost as if it talks to us all day and night long, and we've grown accustom to its voice, and what its saying - even though we may not fully understand.

Over the course of the past year, I have met a lot of 9/11 survivors - and I have heard stories of first-hand experiences that I almost can't even believe. When I attempt to write anything about these people, or their stories, my mind goes completely blank - as if there is absolutely nothing I can say.

Because there isn't.

In some way, I think we're all 9/11 survivors - whether you are or were in New York, the US, or the World on that day, I believe everyone survived 9/11 in some capacity. Its an odd kinship that became clear to me the minute I started living here - the minute I started pointing tourists in the right direction, the minute I started watching all the little Lego Men down in the site break ground, the minute I started seeing New York from my window, as I cannot see the City skyline unless I see Ground Zero first. Her biggest wound is in our front yard.

I tend to view the state in which we live as a country and as individuals in these frightening times in generally 2 ways: one can be paranoid, and anxious, or one can simply live, and continue to move forward for as long as one is able to do so.

I really thought I was the latter. I mean, if there's a threat made on the NYC subway system, you can bet I'll walk to wherever I have to be that day - but relatively speaking, I like to believe that life is too short to be paranoid - and ending up in the wrong place at the wrong time is tragic on every level - but it happens. Also, anxiety gives me zits. Uncool.

But two nights ago at 3:06 am, I realized that I am - somewhere inside - paranoid.

All I can really recall is being jolted by the shake of my building at the exact moment that a horrible rumble caused both Chris and I to shoot up out of bed from a deep sleep. Gertie was already awake and alarmed. It wasn't two seconds that went by, and the following thoughts had already raced through my mind:

- We never finalized the "In Case of Emergency" plan with our cousins...Lin and Paul are going to kill us.

- Should I call my parents immediately? How long will the phones be out?

- I thought of every friend I have in this City - even people I work with. I wondered if they were OK.

- I kicked myself for not having bottled water.

- I contemplated what shoes I should put on.

- I hoped Chris wouldn't try and be a hero - but I knew that he would.

- I wondered if all of us (City, US, World) would survive this time.

Chris jumped out of bed and told me to "stay put", and at this moment, I was honestly expecting him to look out our window and see the City ablaze....

.....we then saw the lightening, and realized it was a storm.

Granted, it was the kind of thunder that sends chills down your spine - and to be woken up by it at 3am was unnerving - but I had a moment of panic like I have never experienced before. It was only a split second, but I thoroughly believed that we were under attack.

Several people who were in New York that night thought the same thing. I guess that's another part of the 9/11 kinship that I had yet to realize.

GERTIE SAYS:


“I guess when you turn off the main road, you have to be prepared to see some funny houses.”

Stephen King

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Girl Crush: Natalie Portman


Natalie Portman turns 28 years old today.

Happy Birthday, Girlfriend - as far as actresses go, you are totally boss.

Cheers.


Chris and I have been living in New York for a year and 10 days. Yet (and very surprisingly), it wasn’t until only a few months ago that we christened our “neighborhood bar”.

We live in the Financial District, which – by comparison – is a bit….sparse. However, he and I are lucky enough to have a pretty awesome Irish Pub located exactly 2.5 blocks from our apartment building. Its name is O’Hara’s.

O’Hara’s hosts the most wonderfully eclectic blend of...well…men. Being a stone’s throw away from Ground Zero, it’s the local watering hole for construction men. Being around the corner from 2 fire stations, its always full of firemen. Being the only bar in the Financial District where you’re not likely to be asked about the strength (or lack thereof) of your portfolio, it’s a hideaway full of businessmen. Given that no one there has ever checked an ID, there’s the occasional boy who is not yet a man. And then there’s the inevitable tourist; the bright-eyed bumpkin wearing Reebok sneakers and a brand new I HEART NY sweatshirt who got sick of staring at a chain-link fence that is “viewing the World Trade Center Site” and stumbled into O’Hara’s in search of a bathroom, but ended up having a beer.

For months, Chris and I walked by O’Hara’s - sometimes 3 or 4 times a day. We’d always peer in, but we’d never stop.

For months, we had been craving bar where they’d know our names.

For months, Chris had been poo-pooing my idea that the bar we were looking for could be O’Hara’s. He had poked fun at the bar and its barflies – having never actually been.

Finally, I ditched Chris and went in with a friend. I had several beers. I had a great time.

Chris still wouldn’t join me.

Then, I went again. I had several beers. I put music in the jukebox. I had a great time, and I stumbled the 2.5 blocks home. It took me 2.5 minutes to get there.

Chris still wouldn’t join me.

Then one Sunday, our day on foot was spoiled by rain. We wanted a beer, and finally crossed the threshold of O’Hara’s.

Two frosty beers, two underage kids, two crotchety barmaids, two firemen, two construction men, one bartender named Jimmy, and four wet tourists later, Chris turns to me and says “I like O’Hara’s. Lets make this our neighborhood bar.”

Great idea, Chris.

Monday, June 8, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:



“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way when you criticize them, you are a mile away from them and you have their shoes.”

Jack Handey

Your Story: The Old Man and the Hudson


In honor of my love and respect for Your Story Productions, a documentary film company, owned and operated by my extremely talented, handsome and Emmy-winning brother-in-law (www.yourstoryfilms.com) - I’m SO not afraid of the shameless plug – I have decided to entitle my latest column “Your Story”.

Erik documents actual life stories (have you checked it out yet? www.yourstoryfilms.com), I’ve decided to shake his idea up a bit. As many of you know, I like it shaken – not stirred.

People in New York are endlessly interesting. Whether its someone on stilts, in full gold body paint, someone who has a severe case of bedhead at 5pm, or someone who appears to be pretty boring, but there’s something in their eyes that screams “freak” (that’s my M.O. by the way) – everyone is interesting. And even if they’re actually not, I have decided to make them so. I’m using my imagination. Rather, I’m attempting to resurrect my imagination from the depths in which it has been hiding since I discovered boys.

But that’s neither here nor there. I’m planning to take strangers of interest that I happen across in New York, and I’m giving them a story. What I think their story is, was and will be. Hopefully, I’ll manage some accompanying pictures without having to become a voyeur – but not this time. This time, I’ll paint the picture for you…


Episode 1: The Old Man and the Hudson

Last week, when it was all gray and dreary and rainy, I decided to brave the elements to take Gertie for the long walk that she deserves. Usually, we walk long the west side esplanade, through Hudson River Park, and upwards from there. Usually, its packed with bikers, runners, walkers and other dogs. But not this day. This day, it was Gertie and I and a million raindrops. It was quiet and blustery and the Hudson was choppy, capped with white foam.

Just when I started to think about how eerie it was to be out there with no one in sight, I saw a figure in the distance. I immediately wished I had my camera, as the scene was so picturesque, it seemed like a set.

Just before the sidewalk turns inward, marking the end of Battery Park City, stood a man.

Between the stillness of the evening – the unmoving trees, the lampposts, and benches – he almost appeared to be a statue. Everything was light gray; the water, the sky, and even the grass appeared so. The man, however, was dark, and stood apart from his backdrop. He had on what one can only describe as a “rain slicker” – but not of the new, Patagonia persuasion, but weathered in such a way that I would have guessed that that slicker was new when he was in his twenties – and from the looks of it, that was a lifetime ago. As I approached, and he glanced at me over his left shoulder, I saw that he was as weathered as his jacket. The skin on his face told a thousand stories, as if he had earned every line by fighting for them. He had gray scruff, and brown, sad eyes, and that’s all I saw. As quickly as he’d glanced at us, he was again facing the water, fishing pole in hand, not moving.

What is his story? What brought him to the Hudson, on a Tuesday evening, in the pouring rain? Did he catch something? A fish? A cold? A tire?


Here’s what I think:

He’s not out there to catch a fish. And even if he did, he’d never eat it. He’d throw it back, and cast again. He’s not in it for the fish.

His name is Charles Finn. He goes by the name Barley – because his little sister called him that before she could say “Ch”. The nickname stuck, and he now introduces himself as such.

He was born in Maine. His father was a plumber, but became one only when Barley was conceived. Before that, he had been a fisherman, but changed careers in order to be home for more than a couple of months a year. His Mother was a seamstress with a wild imagination and an entrepreneurial spirit. She had a lovely singing voice, and had always dreamed of being on Broadway. His parents met at a high school dance.

His sister was three years younger than Barley, and her name was Claire. At age eight, Claire fell through the ice of a frozen river, and drown. Barley was there, and was unable to save her.

After Claire’s death, his parents moved the family to New York. His Father became disconnected, and thought maybe he’d get back into fishing. His Mother thought she’d sing on Broadway. Neither of these things ended up happening.

They moved to Hell’s Kitchen, and Barley became a bully. He wore a newsboy hat that he rarely took off – and that’s how everyone knew him. When he was 16, he turned his aggression to baseball, and was drafted at 19 by the Yankee’s, as their secret weapon. His fastball was clocked at 100 miles per hour, exactly.

Sadly, Barley has never donned the pinstripes. During Spring Training, he met Annie. She was a petite brunette who liked to wear polka-dots. In many ways, she reminded him of his Mother, as she, too, was a dreamer.

They fell instantly in love, and spent day and night planning what their lives would be like when he was a famous pitcher for the New York Yankees. They imagined that he would be able to find her in the crowd, because he would look for a polka-dotted dress (navy and white, of course) and he would blow a kiss to her before every first pitch. She’d be his good luck charm. She promised to never miss a game.

One night after practice, he offered to drive Annie home (she was there to watch). Barley had one hand on the wheel and one hand holding hers. They sang along to the radio. The next memory that Barley has is one of excruciating pain.

Later, Annie recalled the events of the accident. The deer, the swerve, and the tree they hit. The car flipped, as did they – and although Annie walked away, unscathed, Barley was not so lucky. His arm – his pitching arm – was crushed.

Barley recovered, but his pitch never did. He returned to New York with Annie, they were married, and they moved to a 6th floor walk-up in the West Village. Barley began plumbing to help his Father, who was ailing, and could no longer handle his workload. Annie began to audition for Broadway shows. Mrs. Finn was both thrilled and envious.

Every day, after they had visited their last client, Barley’s Father insisted that the two of them fish. It was a required daily ritual, and although Barley wasn’t much of a fisherman, his Father swore that there was no better way to let the world go – if only for a moment – and to think and worry about nothing. Barley soon learned that his Father was absolutely right. Mr. Finn understood the disappointment of dreams unrealized, and even in his final days, he joined Barley on the dock to forget things that happened - and maybe more importantly, things that didn't. The two of them never talked when they fished. They just thought, and worried about nothing.

After the first April shower, Mr. Finn surprised Barley with a charcoal gray rain slicker. The day before, it was raining as though it would never stop, and Barley was unprepared. When he came home that night, Annie told him it would take a year for her to ring him out, and asked that he skip fishing on the rainy evenings. The next day, it rained again, and Barley reported to work to find a box on his desk, tied with one, single red bow. The slicker smelled of plastic and sat stiffly over Barley’s work clothes. But when he came home that night bone dry, Annie retracted her request. Of all of the birthday and Christmas presents he had received from his Father – that is the only gift he can remember.

The years passed, and Barley took over the plumbing business when his Father died, and Annie became a successful off-Broadway star. She had the acting chops and the vivaciousness to compensate for what she lacked in singing voice. Mrs. Finn was Annie’s biggest fan, aside from Barley – and she never missed a performance.

More years passed, and all of a sudden, it was last week - the 1st week in June, 2009. Barley and Annie moved from the 6th floor walk-up to a condo in Battery Park City, as it was becoming difficult for Barley to tackle the stairs.

Annie was just cast in a new play. Barley is still running his Father’s business. His Mother lived to be 96 and passed away only a year ago.

They never had children – they never seemed to have time. The way he sees it is that that's the way it was always supposed to be.

He doesn't fish every night. He's too old and too tired. He only fishes in the rain. He only fishes in his slicker. He only fishes when its just him, the gray of the Hudson, the gray of the sky, and a few moments of nothing.

Except, of course, when Gertie and I walk by.

Friday, June 5, 2009

GERTIE SAYS:


"Fear causes hesitation, and hesitation will cause your worst fears to come true."
Patrick Swayze as Bohdi, Point Break 1991

Thursday, June 4, 2009

A Big Apple a Day: Day 1



New York is a city of scowls, grunts and the occasional "I'm walkin' here!" (no, seriously). Its also a city of smiles, wide eyes, and the occasional kind-hearted stranger. But New Yorkers and those who visit are a breed of their very own - unlike the inhabitants and visitors in any other city, I'm convinced. I can't put my finger on it, but what I can do, is put a title on it. I'm going to pick my favorite New York moment of the day, and I'm gonna call it "A Big Apple a Day". Its a little Seasame Street, I admit. But Seasame Street rocks. So there.

Day 1:

I have discovered a wonder of New York that has made me so incredibly happy, its almost embarrassing to admit my glee. I have discovered the $5 fruit salad. Served out of a vending truck on the corner of Broadway and Beaver (hee-hee), this Chinese husband and wife team serve up the most delectable fruit on the planet. To boot, it comes in a huge container, so stuffed that they have to put two rubber bands around it to keep it all in. Its like, 7 lbs of fruit. For $5.

In any case, I am not the only person who visits Mr & Mrs Fruit. There's always a line. Generally, people are courteous and patient. Until today.

So, its "raining". I've put this in quotes, because it had stopped at this point, and the one, single open umbrella within eye-shot was the one belonging to the woman in front if me. The use of an umbrella unless its absolutely necessary is very close to being my #1 pet peeve; behind people who confuse their, there and they're.

She gets the fruit, she pays, and turns to go. As she fumbles with her purse and fruit, she backs up into me, swings around, and grazes my cheek/eye with the pointy part of her umbrella as I do a back-bend (mind you, its 8:25 am - WAY too early for back-bends) to avoid the loss of sight at the hands of a useless umbrella.

And then, Lady WALKS AWAY. Just walks away! Without a word! I have dodged blindness and stepped on the toe of the man behind me - all on her account - and she walks away? (says the girl from Connecticut in me).

But then I stop to think. There are several potential reasons for her cluelessness, which I must consider;

1) She may not have control over her hands, and thus, anything in them - causing her to be at the whim of her umbrella and the slightest breeze.
2) She's one of those people who carries an umbrella, rain or shine, for fear of both water and sun (pet peeve #3).
3) I'm invisible.
4) She's a tourist (though it would be unusual to see a tourist in a suit with running shoes (pet peeve #4!)).
5) She's in a huge hurry, and doesn't care (which I can totally respect).

So I did what any New Yorker would do: I ordered my fruit salad.

But why does she get the Big Apple a Day award?

A) Lack of respect for other people's personal space.
B) Irrational use of an oversized umbrella (in a line!).
C) Zero *Umbrella Etiquette.

*Umbrella Etiquette: Knowing when and where to use an umbrella. Knowing that in a city of millions, one must be aware at all times about location and proximity of umbrella to others - especially others eyes. Understanding that when one is around others, one must raise umbrella above head-level to pass by. Realizing that we're all wet, tired, cranky and wanting fruit.

Optimistic New Yorkers



About a month ago, a query crossed my desk from the Features Reporter at the New York Daily News. The query read as follows:

[We're searching for the most optimistic New Yorkers.
Candidates would need to have overcome some kind of hardship - can be big or small - but remains extremely cheerful and inspiring.]

The deadline was only a few hours away, but I decided to reply. It was less an effort to be picked up for the article, and more an exercise in optimism - which as it turns out, I really needed. I think everyone does.

So, I thought I'd share:


Are you still looking for Optimistic New Yorkers? I saw your query, and my husband and I are interested in answering it.

He and I are lucky enough to have our jobs and health, however, our hardship came in the form of getting hung out to dry with unexpected taxes this season. We moved to New York in June of '08 from California, and instead of getting a return as we had planned, we ended up owing quite a bit to both State Governments and Federal. We were devastated.

To cure our financial woes? We made a huge financial commitment! We adopted a dog from SoHo's Animal Haven, scrapping the idea that "we cannot afford a dog" as we've been telling ourselves for years.

Turns out, we cannot afford to NOT have a dog. She has literally become a little light of hope and happiness in our lives. We're both up with her every morning at 5:30am, taking a long morning walk and then again in the afternoon. We live across the street from the Hudson River esplanade, and thanks to her, have seen the sun rise and set on a daily basis. Doing so (as opposed to pulling the covers over our heads in fear of a new day) has remarkably improved our outlook on our current situation and the current state of the City, Country and World at large.

We are beginning to see New York, and life in general, through a new set of eyes - our dog's! And what we have found is that its beautiful and alive and constantly moving forward - and optimism is in its very existence.

Our pit-bull mix, Gertie, was found starving and homeless in Morningside Park not 2 months ago. She was abandoned, as so many dogs - and people! - find themselves these days. She was left with nothing but New York - and yet today, she's healthy, fed, walked, sheltered and loved by just about everyone who meets her. Being privy to her story has become a major inspiration to both my husband and I - and perhaps she can be to others.

With so many people down and out, it might be nice to be reminded that the possibilities are infinite - and just when you think you're going to starve to death, New York just might take you in and change your life in amazing ways.

Historically Speaking: 6/4/09


On this day...


1070 Roquefort cheese created in a cave near Roquefort, France

GERTIE SAYS: Your daily dose of wisdom from the world's smartest dog.

Never has there been a better excuse than a rainy day.

- Gertrude Ewers, Best Friend and Dog Extraordinaire

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

First and Foremost


Dear These People (arrow pointing right),

You infuriate me to no end - yet, I have no idea who you are and what it is that you actually do.

I just feel like I need to get that out of the way before I can really move on.

OK, I'm good. Moving on.

As if anybody cares. But you.



Dear Friends, Family and Countrymen,

How hilarious is it that it has taken me 11 years into my internet experience (yes, 11 years - I live in a mental Stone Age) to create a blog. This is probably because I learned the definition of "blog" about 3 years ago, and just learned today that I can actually have one.

I have known since birth that I was born approximately 100 years too late. The word "blog" should never have entered my vocabulary. Yet, here we are...

But since I ended up gracing the world with my presence in 1980, I now have the opportunity to do this - to "blog". I have the opportunity that my Grandparents (and even Parents - sorry M&D) have never even dreamed of ever even wanting. I have the opportunity to bore countless friends, family, and anyone who stumbles across this with my muses, quandaries, observations, and - God help you all - opinions.

So, welcome. And buckle up. This has the potential to be more fun than you think it will.